Top Wedding Traditions: Guess Who's a Dirty, Rotten Rule-Breaker? (Editor's Notebook)
Weddings have been around for thousands of years, and so have some of the traditions accompanying them. According to a list on The Knot, there are 10 traditions brides are breaking these days. Guess how many I'm breaking?
Weddings are full of traditions — the groom can't see the bride the day of the wedding, the bride must wear white and the bride must walk down the aisle before her guests, friends and family.
Many wouldn't dream of breaking these traditions. Me? I've never really cared much for traditions.
At this point, we're 165 days away from my wedding. Yesterday, I received an email in my inbox from TheKnot.com, a super-popular wedding planning website among brides to-be. The email was called "10 Wedding Rules You Can Break."
Hmm. This piqued my curiosity as I found myself wanting to know just how many rules I'm breaking for my wedding...
Old School Rule #1: The Bride's Parents Pay for the Wedding
While my parents are helping us out in little ways, such as purchasing our flower girl dresses to offset some of those costs, Ben and I are paying for the wedding completely out of our own pocket. One advantage to this? The person holding the checkbook can't tell us what to do, so the wedding will be 100 percent ours.
Old School Rule #3: Your Registry Should Consist Entirely of Housewares for Your New Home
Ben and I recently started our registry at Target here in Ankeny. While we put our fair share of bathroom towels, kitchen knives and wine glasses on our registry, there's also a couple of Nintendo Wii games on there — Tetris, to be specific. As for honeymoon hotel accommodations? I'm going to have to look up how to do that one!
Old School Rule #4: The Bride Must Wear a Long, White Gown.
I spit in the face of this rule right out of the gate. My dress is ivory and champagne (more to come on that process in a later column!). It is long, though, so I get brownie points for that.
Old School Rule #8: Ceremony Seating is Based on a Bride's Side and Groom's Side.
This won't work at our wedding. Why? Ben has a relatively small family. Me? My mom is one of 10 children — you do the math. For the sake of symmetry, we're likely going to mix things up and let guests sit wherever they please.
Old School Rule #10: You Have to Leave for Your Honeymoon Right After Your Reception.
Right now, our honeymoon is tentative based on the final cost of our wedding. Should we run a little low on said funding, Ben and I might delay our honeymoon until we can take the one we both want and deserve.
There are several more old school rules on The Knot, some of which I am, in fact, adhering to. There's nothing wrong with a little tradition, right?
That being said, I'm curious to know how many of you broke some of these tried and true traditions and went your own way at your weddings. How did it work out for you? Do you regret it? Was it a good decision? Share your stories with me in the comments.
They might just encourage me to rebel a little more!
Want to know where this idea came from? Check out my introductory column!
Jody Gifford
10:25 am on Tuesday, March 27, 2012
I think a wedding should be a reflection of the couple tying the knot. If your M.O. is to buck tradition, the so be it. These days, many marriages are considered untraditional. Why should the wedding be any different? I say do whatever makes you and Ben happy.